When you wrong someone and you ask for forgiveness, it is up to that person to choose whether to forgive you or not. May I remind you that an apology without changed actions is manipulation. -Sierra Monaee Whether you see it or not, sometimes the people that have been wronged know things you do not.. You don't get to choose that someone forgives you for something you have done that has hurt someone. Let me give you a quote from this article from psychology today: "However, there are scenarios in which forgiveness is not the best course for a particular person. Sometimes a victim of sexual abuse becomes more empowered when they give themselves permission not to forgive." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/forgiveness Maybe if people apologized after genuine change, they might find more apologies accepted.
Lastly, about reconciliation is not a product of forgiveness. People can forgive someone and never reconcile.
Have a beautiful day folks!